Category: Love

Rejection

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The worst pain in the world is the pain of rejection and the most painful rejection is that which comes from someone you love so dearly. The reason is obvious. By freely giving your love, you give another person the capacity to freely reject your love as well.

I am no stranger to rejection. I have experienced the worst kind. I describe the emotional pain as something  worse than any physical pain. People couldn’t be more accurate calling it a bleeding heart or a broken heart because it sure felt like the heart is actually bleeding and breaking.

But we know very well that something which is bleeding and breaking needs fixing. And so we frantically search for ways to do the job. We struggle so hard because unlike any other job where working with more people lets you be more efficient, in this particular job, having to rely on your own strength gets it done and over with faster. 

Bouncing back from rejection is rather difficult because the damage it does to our self-esteem is significant, sometimes irreversible. Some people completely lose it and the outcome is really terrible. I think that self-esteem is the least cared for aspect of our health. We tend to ignore the dents and cracks on our self-esteem because for some reason, we think that they’ll heal on their own. Heck, we care more  about the calories we put in our bodies than our emotional wear and tear. 

Foolish as it may seem, I think the world is doing an injustice to people who are on the receiving end of rejection. Think of it as an emotional injury. We hold people accountable for inflicting us physical injury, right?  Why don’t we do the same for those who caused us an emotional injury? Then, we will need psychologists to work as policemen. Policemen catching people for the crime of rejecting people. Yes, I know it sounds extremely odd but you get the point. 🙂

 

 

 

 

When a strong woman loves and loses

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A strong woman is an independent woman. She knows how to solve problems on her own, recognizes and grabs opportunities when they come, and never settles for less than what she wants. What she wants always boils down to what she thinks she deserves. She is responsible. She is undoubtedly strong and she is designed to overcome all adversity.

A strong woman has confidence in her talents and recognizes her potential. She always  delivers the best presentation, and always succeeds at whatever she sets her mind on achieving. She can and will turn the impossible into reality  if she wants to. The only limit to her success is her imagination.

A strong woman is a very rational woman. She can argue gracefully and knows which battles to fight. For the times that she has to argue, she does so with so much passion. She will only fight for the things she strongly believes in and will never get tired doing so. She will fight injustice and partiality with all her might.

A strong woman does not fear rejection. She had encountered a lot of rejections along the way and perfectly knows how to turn those into positive opportunities for growth. She does not fear change, either. In fact, she welcomes change. If she wanted to, she would trade a perfectly stable job in a familiar place for a life of exciting uncertainty somewhere else, even if that means she has to start all over again.

A strong woman is a good and kindhearted woman. She has a heart as big as her brain. She knows very well that what matters more in life are not her achievements but how much positive impact she had in other people’s lives. She is not simply pursuing her own happiness but more importantly, delights in the happiness of the people who matter to her.

A strong woman is a very committed woman. She will celebrate with you through the good times and stick it out with you through the difficult ones. She will move mountains just to keep her commitments. She values her relationships deeply and will make time to show it to you.  She will treat you as she would like to be treated – with respect, honesty and sincerity. And she will never run out of energy especially for the people she loves.

When a strong woman loves, she will do so with all her heart. Not every man has the wit, character and ability to charm her but when she finds a man worthy of her time, she will make time for him. A strong woman is a great multitasker. She can handle a relationship very well and work on making her own dreams come true at the same time.

But a strong woman is not a perfect woman. When a strong woman loves and loses, she feels pain at a magnitude unknown to many. Her strong spirit will endure but her heart will  be shattered by rejection. Her rational mind will understand but her heart will be torn to pieces when she is taken for granted. Her independent character will prevail but her heart will be pained, silently wishing for someone to take care of her for the times that she’s weak.

But prevail she will. Because among all her strengths, one stands out – her ability to discern when a fight is lost. Her relentless attitude will exhaust all possible ways to win and she’ll be the first to know when she’s defeated.

To a strong woman, time is very much like a currency. She does not like wasting time. When she loves and loses, she will allow herself to grieve. Then, she will stand up strong and ready once again.